Nigel's notes

Random thoughts on the world of kink

But how do I explain it to the kids?

communitypride / August 15, 2017

An argument (sadly a recurrent one) about fetish at Pride marches has just been published on Gay Star News. It has an argument against, and an argument for, and I wrote the section explaining why we should be allowed to take part in Pride marches. (Yes, it’s 2017, we’re still having that argument). You can read both parts here. One of the reasons often cited for not allowing the perverts at Pride is that it should be “family friendly.”  I have two issues with that. First, this is our time. And frankly I’m getting a bit sick of being told that everything – whether it’s the censorship of my broadband …..

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Lights! Sound! Sensory deprivation

technology / April 21, 2017

Sensory deprivation is something quite a few people like playing with. It can be as simple as just some ear plugs, or ear defenders, and a blindfold or hood. But you can do much more than that too, of course. Over the years, I’ve played with a few interesting gadgets that can enhance the experience, and I thought I’d round up a few of them here, in case other people fancy trying them out. I’m focusing here largely on high-tech solutions. Please note: some things here come with health warnings; always read the instructions, and don’t ever use gear like this on someone without discussing it first. Not only might …..

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More notes on a scam

scams / September 29, 2016

It’s no great surprise that, once again, I received a message on Recon from someone saying they were looking for a sub, and telling me to email them. This time, Recon were pretty quick – by the time I saw the message, the profile had already been deleted. Nevertheless, I decided to follow up on my previous adventures in working out a scam, and see if this one was the same. Surprise, surprise, things went in much the same way – though “Benjamin Porter” wasn’t forthcoming with any info, even though I mentioned in my very first message that I couldn’t see his profile on Recon. First off, a reminder …..

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Notes for kinksters on the Yahoo password hack

fetish sites / September 23, 2016

Yesterday the news broke of a massive hack of Yahoo data, which took place in 2014, but has only been revealed now. There have been several similar high-profile hacks lately, and so I thought it worth taking a look at this topic, in particular from the point of view of kinksters – though the notes here really apply equally to anyone who values their privacy and that of others. I’ll try to explain simply what’s happened, what you should do about it, and what steps to take in future, too. What’s happened? According to Yahoo, some details of up to 500 million accounts are believed to have been obtained by …..

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We’re volunteers, not the help

BLUFcommunity / September 4, 2016

As most of the people reading this will know, I run BLUF, and I spend a huge amount of time on it – probably a couple of hours a day most days, and when there’s a new feature being rolled out on the site, or an update to one of our apps, that can easily extend to several hours a day, for a couple of weeks at a time. Around the world, BLUF and other clubs rely tremendously on volunteers. These are the people who sort out your memberships, and post your newsletters, and talk to bars, and arrange events, and try to make people feel welcome, and all the …..

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Notes on a scam

fetish sitesscams / August 26, 2016 / 2 Comments

As a user of various online dating / community sites, I’m quite used to receiving unsolicited messages from people with a certain air of spam about them. It seems from anecdotal evidence that you’re much more likely to get these if your profile indicates you’re submissive. Typically, the messages come from someone with a profile that claims they’re looking for a slave, with photos that seem too good to be true, and they state that they’re seldom on the site, so it’s best to communicate by email. So, in a spirit of enquiry, I decided to play along with one of these and see what happens, and work out what …..

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Well, hello there

Uncategorized / August 26, 2016

Welcome to Nigel’s Notes. I’ve created this as a place to post things that are kink related, that I think deserve an audience, but don’t actually fit within the remit of the BLUF Blog, and can’t be shoehorned into my main blog, for fear of sending readers running to the hills. So, come on in, but don’t expect a massive volume of posts.

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