{"id":93,"date":"2017-08-15T18:49:18","date_gmt":"2017-08-15T17:49:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/?p=93"},"modified":"2017-08-15T19:09:50","modified_gmt":"2017-08-15T18:09:50","slug":"but-how-do-i-explain-it-to-the-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/2017\/08\/15\/but-how-do-i-explain-it-to-the-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"But how do I explain it to the kids?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>An argument (sadly a recurrent one) about fetish at Pride marches has just been published on Gay Star News. It has an argument against, and an argument for, and I wrote the section explaining why we should be allowed to take part in Pride marches. (Yes, it&#8217;s 2017, we&#8217;re still having that argument).<\/p>\n<p>You can read <a href=\"https:\/\/www.gaystarnews.com\/article\/fetish-puppies-pride\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">both parts here<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>One of the reasons often cited for not allowing the perverts at Pride is that it should be &#8220;family friendly.&#8221;\u00a0 I have two issues with that.<\/p>\n<p>First, this is <em>our<\/em> time. And frankly I&#8217;m getting a bit sick of being told that everything &#8211; whether it&#8217;s the censorship of my broadband connection, what can be shown on TV, or what I can wear at Pride &#8211; has to be rendered suitable and safe for your children, whom I will probably never meet, and certainly wouldn&#8217;t like if I did.<\/p>\n<p>Secondly, how hard is this? If you&#8217;re wondering &#8220;How do I explain that to the kids,&#8221; then why are you taking them to Pride in the first place? I guess you&#8217;ve already had the talk, explaining about people being gay, because if you&#8217;ve not even done that, you should certainly be staying away until you have.<\/p>\n<p>So, I&#8217;m guessing you already did, and it went something like &#8220;You know how mummy and daddy are in love? Well, sometimes two men can be in love too, like Uncle John and his friend Sam.&#8221; And, most likely, your kids took it completely in their stride, and said &#8220;OK&#8221; or &#8220;Cool&#8221; or something like that. Congratulations &#8211; they&#8217;re completely unfazed. It is the 21st century, after all.<\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s a completely free parenting tip for you: you don&#8217;t have to tell me that I can&#8217;t turn up at Pride wearing what I want, &#8220;because of the children.&#8221; You just have to do some parenting again. You&#8217;ve done it once already, when you explained about The Gays,\u00a0 so it shouldn&#8217;t be too hard. Try this, or something like it:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Sometimes, when Mummy wants to make Daddy happy, she wears a special dress, and we go and have a cuddle. And sometimes when two boys want to make each other happy, one of them puts on some special clothes too, like a puppy, or clothes made out of leather, and that makes them both happy, so they can have a cuddle too.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And when you&#8217;ve done that, come along and enjoy Pride.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>An argument (sadly a recurrent one) about fetish at Pride marches has just been published on Gay Star News. It has an argument against, and an argument for, and I wrote the section explaining why we should be allowed to take part in Pride marches. (Yes, it&#8217;s 2017, we&#8217;re still having that argument). You can read both parts here. One of the reasons often cited for not allowing the perverts at Pride is that it should be &#8220;family friendly.&#8221;\u00a0 I have two issues with that. First, this is our time. And frankly I&#8217;m getting a bit sick of being told that everything &#8211; whether it&#8217;s the censorship of my broadband &#8230;..<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,16],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/93"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=93"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/93\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":97,"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/93\/revisions\/97"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=93"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=93"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/roughsex.org\/notes\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=93"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}