Nigel's notes

Random thoughts on the world of kink

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On Pride and Just Stop Oil

Uncategorized / June 30, 2023

A couple of days before the Pride in London Parade, campaigning group Just Stop Oil issued a statement; or perhaps some might call it an ultimatum. The statement was dated 4pm on the 28th of June, and said they would wait 24 hours for a response, with a vague threat of possible action at the weekend’s events, if there was not clarity the three points raised. This has, not surprisingly, somewhat set the cat amongst the pigeons. There are those who view climate as the biggest emergency facing us right now. There are those who think that attacks on trans people are a more pressing issue. There are those who …..

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On language, and the burden of moderation

Uncategorized / April 16, 2023

Everyone knows some language can be problematic. Everyone thinks they should have freedom of speech. Most people also think there should be some authority to call upon when the two clash. And that means that the ‘authority’ that is called upon should have processes, and guidelines, to try and navigate through a pretty complex field. Often, perhaps, they overestimate the robustness of those, and end up disappointed. So, in this post, I’m setting out where I stand on content moderation, in particular with regard to BLUF. First, what do our rules say? Our main rule regarding content is this: “You must not use the BLUF.com site or other BLUF online …..

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Backstreet Q&A

Uncategorized / May 31, 2022

Since the closure of The Backstreet was announced, I’ve been asked questions by many, many people, and I decided to put as much information as I can somewhere I can refer people to. This is not on the BLUF blog, because I am writing this in a strictly personal capacity. I should stress that I do not speak for The Backstreet, and I can’t comment directly on their financial situation, as I don’t know it; even if I could, it would probably be inappropriate for me to do so without their express permission. Why is it closing? The bar is closing because the lease is expiring, and will not be …..

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On titles

Uncategorized / February 8, 2020

Note 1: this is based on a draft I originally wrote in 2016. I have edited it lightly, and changed the title from the original “Toxic titles.” I didn’t publish it at the time, because I felt that certain things were still too raw in the UK leather community, but three and a half years later, I think it’s worth airing. Note 2: this is strictly a personal view. As an organisation, BLUF isn’t going to get involved in running or organising title contests, but we’re always happy to work with titleholders to get their messages out, including publicising events or groups for them. Leather titles have been with us …..

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Well, hello there

Uncategorized / August 26, 2016

Welcome to Nigel’s Notes. I’ve created this as a place to post things that are kink related, that I think deserve an audience, but don’t actually fit within the remit of the BLUF Blog, and can’t be shoehorned into my main blog, for fear of sending readers running to the hills. So, come on in, but don’t expect a massive volume of posts.

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